Thursday, March 6, 2014
So here is my list of what I've learned so far....
1. Sharing a bed is hard work. Especially if you are used to sleeping in a large bed alone with 3+ pillows. If you do, your husband will probably complain that he only gets 30% of the bed while you take up the other 70%. But considering the alternative is to sleep without your beloved pillows and instead turn him black and blue by your violent tossing and turning all night long, he might just be willing to accept that 30%.
The truth - falling asleep in each others arms is for the movies. Reality is the kiss and roll (as in a kiss goodnight and roll to opposite sides)
2. Changing your name is a pain. Really, whoever decided that the social security office should only be open from 10 am to 3 pm Monday through Friday (except for closing at noon on Wednesday) was not thinking of the working newlywed.
And in case you were wondering, you can't just show up at the DMV and smile for a new license with your new name and address on it....there are steps you have to take before that...
3. Some friend/relative/distant acquaintance might have been upset or offended by something you did or didn't do at your wedding. Don't dwell on it to much or let it effect how you remember the day.
4. Your new wedding dishes won't last forever. In fact, you should probably drop one on the floor as soon as you open the box just to get it over with.
5. Don't register at Target. You will probably end up with 3 Keurig machines because their registry system is awful and they might happen to mix up your returns and put the store credit back on the purchasers credit card rather than a gift card for you. This can make for potentially awkward moments when thinking of how to phrase a thank you card. On the positive side, they will consolidate all the gift cards you receive into one lump sum, which is much more convenient.
6. If you marry a Finn beware. No one will ever be able to spell or pronounce your last name again. In fact you will probably have to practice spelling it as well....
Sunday, March 2, 2014
Friday, February 14, 2014
I'm the first to admit that I'm not a very good secret keeper - and this was one that was VERY hard for me to keep! But it was totally worth it.
Tuesday, February 11, 2014
One of the things that has been a huge help to me has been meal planning. I hate actually doing it, but it has made our weekday lives flow so much smoother. With both of us working full time we've found meal planning to be one of the keys to maximizing our evening time together and ensuring we are eating healthy.
Last August we both decided to cut as many processed and high preservative foods out of our diets as possible. It was a challenge for both of us, but especially Brandon who was living on his own and used to the convenience of highly processed and prepared foods. Six months later I've learned to really expand my cooking skills, and meal planning helps ensure we are eating natural, whole foods about 90% of the time (we are still working on breakfasts....). One of our biggest changes has been making whatever we can from scratch - breads, tortillas, salad dressings, etc.
Here is what this week looks like for us:
Breakfasts (like I said, this is where we are working on improving, we are also both creatures of habit and convenience in this area):
- Brandon: Protein Bars, Smoothies, Kashi Breakfast Cookies
- Me: Instant Oatmeal, Cereal, Fruit
- Weekends: Eggs, Whole Wheat Banana Pancakes
- Brandon: Leftovers (he loves leftovers which is perfect when you are only cooking for 2!)
- Me: I make a big batch of soup on the weekend and will take that a few days a week or a salad with beans, homemade bread, and veggies/fruit
- Saturday: Spaghetti and Meatballs, Steamed Broccoli and Carrots
- Sunday: Dinner with Mom and Dad
- Monday: Chicken Fried Rice, Zucchini
- Tuesday: Italian Sausage Soup, Whole Wheat Bread, Salad with homemade dressing
- Wednesday: Baked Sweet Potatoes stuffed with chicken, zucchini, squash, and red onion, green beans
- Thursday: Cheese and Black Bean Quesadillas on Whole Wheat Tortillas, salad
- Friday: (Brandon's birthday dinner with my extended family) White Chicken Chili, salad, bread
Tuesday, February 4, 2014
Monday, February 3, 2014
While I hope I won’t bore you too much, be prepared for several wedding-related posts over the next few months. Lets face it, I had so much fun planning and preparing that I can’t just walk away from the day without sharing a few tips and favorites! And the photographer won’t have our professional pictures ready for at least another two weeks....
So for today, here is my #1 lifesaving wedding tip. Have a wedding coordinator.
Don’t be confused, I don’t necessarily mean a wedding planner, or even a professional. I mean a friend, a relative, someone who can be your right-hand lady on the wedding day to make sure everything is properly executed and flows smoothly.
I had known several brides who shared with me that their biggest frustration on their wedding day was that they got caught up in the little details - people asking them about last minute changes, making sure thing A got moved from location 1 to location 2, making sure Jimmy was in the right spot, etc. It distracted them from enjoying their wedding day and being able to spend time with their guests.
Now, if you are a totally easy-going bride who could care less where Jimmy stands or whether or not 10 people are calling you on your wedding day asking last minute questions, then please go ahead and ignore this post. However, I know myself. Like it or not I have a strong type-A personality and love for things to be organized. I knew that if I wanted to be able to fully relax and enjoy my wedding, I needed to know that another capable person was in charge.
Enter Amanda. Friends since middle-school, Amanda is perhaps even more organized then I am (maybe). She has known me for years and knows my preferences and how I tend to operate. Added bonus = she has experience with event planning and is the secretary at the church where Brandon and I got married.
Amanda and I met a few times in the months leading up to the wedding and the week before the wedding I gave her all of my master lists:
- The set-up for the reception hall
- The seating chart
- The ceremony program
- All of our wedding party's and vendor’s contact numbers
On the wedding day, Amanda was my go-to contact person. Everyone had her cell phone number and I left my phone at home! Among other things, she and her husband did all of the transportation of the items we wanted moved from the church to the reception hall, and were the first ones to arrive at the reception to make sure everything was set-up the way I had imagined (although we had a great coordinator assigned to us by the hall, I wanted someone who really knew what I was thinking to double check things).
The end result was amazing. I had several people tell me the day of that they could not believe how relaxed I was - and it was the truth! Thanks to some serious preparation, after the wedding rehearsal I was able to place everything in Amanda’s hands and just enjoy the day!